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To Be or Not To Be Pregnant

November 18, 2011

Here’s a litte excerpt and back story about that time I thought I was pregnant, how I felt before, during and after finding out about this possibility…

I’ve done a lot of scary things in my life: I married my first true love with zero money in our pockets; I’ve jumped off a 15-meter water fall; I did zip lining thrice (one in Lignon Hill in Albay, one in Club Manila East, and one in an Eco Park in Misibis Bay); I almost died while surfing; and lots more. But I think walking into the bathroom this morning and taking those two pregnancy tests were the scariest of them all…. Ready or Not

To my surprise, it was my hubby who got a little disappointed with what happened. And he was astounded with his reaction too. Perhaps someday we could do it all right if we really want to. Unfortunately, I have my own conditions that need to be met first. There’s the beach wedding that I’ve always wanted since day one; there’s the desire to be able to pay for our house and car mortgages in full without depleting our entire savings; there’s the trust fund that I want to put up for our future kids if ever we do come to that point.

I know it all sounds “Are you for real?” And yes, I am. I want to be practical. Peter and I were both products of unplanned marriages and pregnancies and I’m speaking for my life which hasn’t been very easy. If we ever do plan to raise a family of our own, I’m not wishing for it to be perfect because nothing is, but at least, I want our children to enjoy life and not worry about living the way I did. 


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Ah! Now I know why you guys have no kids yet.

I’m a product of planned pregnancy - that is, I was born after my parents got married. I was born after their early 30s. It wasn’t also an easy life - because we had some sort of generation gap. Their interests and my interests do not really jive well up to this time.

Up to now, I have to take care of my parents in their senior years. I have only very short moments to catch up with old friends or meet new people.

Posted by Gem at November 19, 2011, 10:01 pm

Hi Jen, have you thought of putting part of you savings on long term investments and not just putting them on your savings deposits alone? I hope you’ve already done that, letting your money work for you and not you always working for the money. God bless you and Peter! May all your dreams come true!

Posted by Dhel Datinguinoo at November 22, 2011, 11:47 pm

Hi Gem,

Thanks for sharing a snippet of your life here. Let me share with you further Peter's story about his parents.

He grew up with his very young mom. They almost had no generation gap at all yet they didn't have a lot of similar interests. He ended up taking care of her until she finally succumbed to cancer and died in 2002, a few months after we had our civil wedding.

On the other hand, he didn't grow up with his dad who's stationed in the US; his dad is like 20 years older than his mom yet, when Peter and his dad are together, they're like two peas in a pod.

I guess it's not really the age. Sometimes, the genes play a big part. Sometimes, it's the personality and willingness of both parties to understand one another and bond.

If ever we do really plan to have a kid, we'd like to be his dad if we can help it. His mom was great too. But it took a while to really bond with her. As for his dad, the first time I met him, I felt like I'm his long lost daughter and I felt right at home.

As for my parents, I've always been the "parent" they never had. Growing up with them seemed like growing up with siblings but I had to do the disciplining part. It was tiring, stressful and draining. I couldn't wait to live on my own and let them "grow up" for once. :)

Posted by sexynomad at November 23, 2011, 2:56 am

Hi Dhel,

That's a very good question. Yes, since I started working in the corporate world (around year 2000), I already started investing and whenever I have a huge chunk of money I don't use, I invest it further.

Peter and I have multiple life insurance policies (one of which already matured and encashed) in 3 different insurance companies; Aside from our savings, we also invest in mutual funds and the others we invest in small businesses.

Our goal really is to just keep receiving money even while we're sleeping. On the other hand, as long as we're still healthy and able, we also don't want to put our talents to waste and just bum and wait for the money to come.

Hopefully, we can just do these things over and over so our money can keep on growing. It helps that we're fond of frugal stuff since day 1. We think a million times before buying anything and we're good at keeping the stuff we buy. So if you meet us now, and you don't know us, we might seem like big spenders in your eyes. The truth is, we just save more than spend more and let our money work for us. Cheers!:)

Posted by sexynomad at November 23, 2011, 3:07 am

I hope more young married couples will think the same way that you do. Being a parent is really a HUGE responsibility since we are talking of new lives you will bring into this world. Being prepared is the best way to deal with parenthood.

Posted by An at December 6, 2011, 11:45 pm

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